Cheating at work often starts with tiny, subtle shifts that your gut picks up before your brain does. 1. You only get to talk to his secretary during work hours. If reaching your guy from 9 to 5 is getting more and more difficult, he may be using his work time to interview prospective mistresses. When you’re always rerouted to someone else, it’s a sign he doesn’t want you seeing what he’s really up to.

If you find that his secretary or co-worker is making excuses for him when it comes to his whereabouts, check it out for yourself. Make a surprise visit to his workplace armed with a delicious picnic lunch and his favorite dessert. He'll either love the unexpected surprise and welcome you with open arms or be speechless because he can't get over the shock of seeing you there when he's already made lunch plans with another woman. His reaction will tell you more than any text ever could.

His workday is getting longer and longer. If your guy has gone from working 8 to 10 hours a day to more like 20 hours a day, he may be spending his time off the clock with another woman. Only you can gauge whether your guy is telling you the truth when he says he'll be home after midnight on a work night, but if you're suspicious conduct an investigation for yourself to confirm it. Patterns, not one‑offs, are what you need to watch.

He talks about his female co-workers a lot including details of their love lives, children, etc. Sometimes guys are so guilty that they think if they talk about their infidelity in a roundabout way and leave out the parts that will hurt you then it's okay to do what they're doing. Flawed logic? Yes! But it happens. If you've got a guy who's doing this, ask him to arrange a lunch or dinner for all of you to meet. You'll know right away when you meet these women if something's up!